Chapter One: The World Will Always Welcome Lovers
We are here to upgrade your sex life no matter what condition it might be in, whether you are just starting out or you already operate at an elite level.
You have a lot of sex ahead of you.
By making your enjoyment of physical and emotional intimacy even a little bit better, over the course of a lifetime you reap vast dividends, not just for yourself and your partner, but for your family, friends, and community.
How is that possible? Because when you have an outrageously fabulous sex life, your burdens are lighter, your stress hormones lower, you are jacked in to the juice of life with enough joie de vivre to spare for others.
Better sex makes you a better man.
By making sex a lot more than just a little bit better, not only will you be having more frequent sex, but you will be enjoying it five, ten, fifteen times more than you do currently.
At a bare minimum, if you increase your frequency of sex twice as much as you are used to, that means that by the end of your life you will have had as much sex as two lifetimes of the man you are now.
Okay, so maybe you already have a lot of sex. There is only so much you can increase the number of times you have sex before you run out of hours in the day. However, as far as the quality of sex goes, there is no upper limit to quality. In a single session, you could experience more satisfaction and ecstasy than other mere mortals experience in a year’s worth of mediocre or substandard sex.
That being the case, why not increase your quality and have ten, or fifty, or a hundred ordinary lifetimes worth of sex?
What I am going to impart to you is, all of it, simple to understand: the governing principles, the strategical applications, the physical techniques.
Simple, however, is not the same as easy. It can be easy, and here’s the beauty part: even when it’s not easy, you are amply compensated for your efforts. Sex is its own reward.
Why me? Why you?
How can I be of benefit to you, especially when we must consider that we are different people. We are both unique, and what works for me may not work for you.
You are unique. No one moves through the world the way you do. No one else shapes the raw experiences of life into the meanings you give them. You are a positive force in this world, and your light shines.
And yet, beneath all culture and custom lies human nature. Although we humans are, indeed, very different from one another, we are also the same at our most basic levels, including the genetic level—-a mere zero point five percent (0.5%) genetic variation between any two humans. Built into that genetic code of ours is the operating software for our biological destiny as a species.
What drives one man pretty much drives all men, in one way or another. When it comes to sex, our shared similarities bring us together. The drive for sex is in our genetic code. We know that; we feel that.
It’s automatic, like our hunger for food or our need for sleep.
Life has its own hunger. Life hungers for more life, to reproduce itself, to constantly fling life’s precious genetic code farther up the time-line of tomorrow’s eternity. Life has banged and twisted itself into the shapes of all of the tigers and trees and beetles that are with us, today. They only got here because every one of their ancestors, stretching back to the beginning of existence on this planet, heeded the imperative of their DNA to replicate, fission, spawn, multiply, beget, and otherwise fuck and procreate.
You and I are the end products of that two billion year process.
Who can resist a two billion year hunger like that?
For in the final analysis, our most basic common link is that we all inhabit this small planet, we all breathe the same air, we all cherish our children’s futures, and we are all mortal. —-John F. Kennedy
The Art Of Sexual Awesomeness is a course written by a man for men.
You are reading this because you want more from sex and from your sex partner than you are currently getting. Even if you are now enjoying really great sex, you want more: you want transcendent sex, cosmic sex, sex so enormous it can be seen from outer-space with the naked eye.
What Fantastic Sex Can Do For You
For a relationship to be successful, it is important for partners to build a foundation of friendship for the time when the intensity of the initial physical attraction lessens.
In addition to the positive good of having lots more fun than ho-hum sex can provide, the right kind of sex can make all aspects of your life better.
Can a man be at the top of his game career-wise, be a loving father and giving friend, be accomplished in his leisure and spiritual pursuits, in sum, be a towering success in all of other parts of his life, a bon vivant, and despite all of that, allow his love-life to exist at a subpar level? Would a man such as that be content with crumbs and scraps when he could be enjoying a feast?
Admittedly, anything is possible. The demands and obligations of job and family too often leave one too distracted, distraught or exhausted to reap from his love-life the rewards he should be enjoying.
They both worked way too hard and made love way too little. —-Susan Werner
Less sex means more work. If you’re not having sex, what are you doing with your time? Chances are, you’re working more. Men and women both turn to work to fill the void when they have sex less than once a week, according to a survey of 32,000 people by the University of Gottingen in Germany. —Bo-RING
This book provides a remedy to anyone who finds himself in such circumstances. If this description applies to you, then I want to point to the fact that your capabilities and your successes in other sectors of your life prove that, with the education and the training you receive in this book, your success in the bedroom is all but guaranteed.
Intercourse releases neurochemicals that reduce stress, and the benefits linger for days.” —-Marnia Robinson & Gary Wilson, Psychology Today
In new relationships, if you can get the sex right, then you stand an excellent chance of getting the rest of the relationship right, too. The mechanics of basic sex are simple; we all understand them. But being simple is not the same a being easy. Sex, as you know, can get complicated.
Isn’t it to every man’s advantage to please a woman reliably and fully? Isn’t being a masterful lover the best insurance for keeping anyone’s partner faithful in a world of ever increasing sexual competition and predation?
Where Does It Start?
Where does it start? It starts with you, and it’s a fine thing that it does. If it were up to someone else, chances are it would never get done.
Why does it start with you? Because you are amazing. Because you have an innate genius for getting the results you want once the path is made clear to you. Because you have a power within you to make things better, to shape the world around you and make it more the way you want life to be, which absolutely includes enjoying your bests possible sex life.
If it sounds like I’m shining you on, look deeper than the encouraging words. In order to do great things, you’ve first got to believe you are capable of doing great things. When you seek to become a perfect lover, a high opinion of your sexual prowess is a useful quality to possess, even for those who have to exaggerate a bit at the start. Exaggeration and a smattering of self-delusion can be a healthy advantage, as long as you dedicate yourself to continual and conscientious improvement so that you will, eventually, live up to your own mental billing.
Maybe you don’t believe you truly are capable of great sexual feats. That’s okay, because I believe for you, and my belief is based on the facts of experience. For example, it wasn’t long ago that I attended a workshop for sensual touch. The woman who led the workshop was gorgeous. Her partner was more on the homely side. Further, he had a knobby stump where his right hand should have been; that didn’t stop them from having sex twice a day. More to the point, she reported he had the touch of super-erotic angel.
If he could be a super-erotic angel with just one hand, you can do it with two, or one, or none. It’s not about what you’ve got or haven’t got: it’s about what you do with what you’ve got. If you’ve got the awareness and intelligence to have read this far, then you’ve got more than enough of what it takes to become a perfect sexual master.
A Zen master is visiting New York City and decides to sample the local cuisine. He stops at an outdoor hotdog vendor and says,
“Make me one with everything.”
The hotdog vendor passes him a hotdog with everything on it.
The Zen master gives him a twenty-dollar bill.
He holds out his hand, expecting change.
“Ah, my son,” says the hotdog vendor, “change must come from within.”
By your acquainting your self with and assimilating the fundamental concepts underlying the practices of the world’s greatest lovers, you will absorb their amatory skills for producing world-class results. No matter what your present aptitude for romance, the very fact of exposing your conscious and subconscious mind to the range and particulars of what is possible will supercharge your sensibilities in subtle and significant ways. Knowing where you’re going and what you have to do to get there are the first steps to getting to where you want to be.
So, let’s hurry over to the next chapter and learn how all this good stuff gets done.